Realizing that no one here will fully understand the situation, I’m just posting this to see what everyone’s reaction is face-value.I’m bi, first of all, but I lean towards girls. There’s a girl, who I shall call Mary, who I dated for a few months this past winter. But I realized I just wasn’t comfortable with the idea of a relationship, still traumatized, in a way, by my previous relationship with an emotionally abusive boy. She is a lovely person, and I was very sorry to break up with her, but I felt it wasn’t fair to her that I couldn’t love her as much as she loved me. There’s another girl, who I shall call Julia, with whom I am VERY physically affectionate. We aren’t going out, and we never have, but because of our closeness, many people have assumed we are a couple. Now, I wouldn’t mind going out with her, and I have a feeling she might be alright with that. Here are my dilemmas:1) I’ve started thinking about Mary a lot more recently. I’m always remembering how sweet, unique, loving, and talented a person she is. But I also am constantly nagged by the urge to touch Julia and hug her, even to swoop in on her and kiss her. I adore being in close contact with her. She’s very cute and funny, and she has a no-nonsense attitude that draws me in.2) Mary is going to Iowa for college in a matter of months (I forget exactly when), and I won’t see her. I hardly see her anyhow, since we only go to church together, and Julia goes to school with me, is in my grade, and we meet often in the hallways and share some classes. 3) I know that Mary and I can be friends again with no awkwardness after a relationship. We are good friends right now. I don’t know if it would be the same with Julia, and the last thing I want to do is lose her as a friend. 4) I’m not entirely sure that my physical attraction doesn’t overshadow my emotional attraction to Julia. I’d hate to think that after beginning to date her, I’d find that that’s all I really needed. I know I like Mary for Mary because we didn’t really focus on physical. We only really kissed once, and held hands and hugged some. We didn’t really “hit on’ each other the blatant way Julia and I do for fun.5) Julia just broke up with a boyfriend, and I definitely don’t want to be a rebound girl.Ain’t it grand how love’s so simple?What do you lovely people think of the situation? What would you do?Thanks a million for your feedback!